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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Thank you all for your advice.  
[b]I'm confident in our relationship and I just am in no rush to get married.   If it happens, great, but I've just never been a wedding/marriage person. As one PP noted, it makes it easier for the guy to pull a "I'm outta here"- I get that, but that wouldn't happen.  And if it did, so be it.[/b]

That being said: In my heart, I want a baby.  In my mind, we need to wait.  Get my act together and our 'ducks in a row', as they say here on DCUM.[/quote]

Kindly, OP, this type of attitude is the luxury of a romantic partner, not a mother.  Aside from all of the legal and financial aspects of marriage, there can be significant emotional repercussions for your children.  DCUM is full of threads started by now-single mothers whose children are hurt by fathers who don't show up for scheduled visits, give more attention to subsequent children with other women, show up intermittently for the children's activities, parent incompetently when the children are in their care, etc.  Even with an amicable separation, your children will likely have to move between two households.  It's one thing to decide on one's own to have a baby as the sole legal parent; it's another ball of wax to raise a child with someone else with whom you no longer have a romantic relationship.[/quote]

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