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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here - in response to 23:11

The ask came on the day of the birth - but child does not ask you to come that day but the following day, which falls on the other grandchild's birthday. Child is assuming that the answer will be yes to a visit at the requested time.

The child giving birth does not want to immediately have multiple visitors with the newborn due to concerns about illness, probably will be a few weeks before sibling and their family will meet them. Grandparent is the only one invited to meet them right now.

History: Two kids get along ok but are not particularly close. Can go months without talking, but haven't really argued. They haven't seen each other in person in a couple years but do a group FaceTime holidays. Their older kids have met once or twice.

The child with the birthday kid is more laid back and usually happy to go along for the sake of family harmony. Child giving birth tends to express preferences more forcefully and has at times cut off family members temporarily if they don't feel they are being treated appropriately.

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The baby was JUST born?  A day before the party?  The newborn wins here.  Any grandma who declined to visit their brand new grandchild because an older grandchild was having a birthday party is making a real statement. I'd cancel the birthday party and celebrate the newborn!  If the birthday kid isn't old enough to know the difference, which it seems like they arent. [/quote]

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