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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. DH hates ABA, says it's like training an animal. DS isn't ASD either and DH says ABA is for severely impacted ASD kids. So ABA is not an available option for me.

I'm already in therapy. I see a psychiatrist to deal with DS but he simply tells me to try to accept the way DS is. Easier said than done. Life is incredibly difficult with a kid like DS to parent. [/quote]

More tough love:

Life is incredibly hard for your child. You are controlling and rejecting. You are teaching him that he is unlovable. You are engaged in a power struggle that neither of you can win.  If you don't correct this right now, it's going to leave scars for the rest of his life.  What you are doing is highly damaging to your child. It's not doing you any good, either. T his kid is defiant because he is angry with you. No matter what he does, he feels like he is never going to make you happy.  He is sure that he is not good enough to be loved and is sure that he will never be good enough.

If your therapist isn't helping you move towards acceptance of your child, then you need to find a new therapist. You need to start focusing on the good things about your child and about your life with your child. You need to start building good experiences into your relationship with him. You need to limit your criticism of him.

As far as anti-depressants go, stop breast feeding and start the medication.  BF isn't the be all and end all. You need to get some help relaxing with your oldest child. A daily aerobic exercise program would also take some stress off of you.
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May I also add:

There is no child on earth who is going to easily admit he is wrong.

There is no child on earth who likes being disciplined or who is easy to discipline.

There is no child on earth who you only have to tell things once.

There is no child on earth who is never rude to his mother.[/quote]

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