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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am sorry for what you are going through.

Not all kids are self-motivated and become self-independent early on.  So for such kids the  end results are always better if the parents remain engaged and guide them for longer than age 18.

Some young adult kids also need the hand holding and more intensive adulting skill lessons.  Leaving them to their fate in their teens, 20s or even early 30s - does not bode well for them.  Some kids do need the guardrails and training wheels for a long time.  The pay-off is that they become productive members of society who can then have the rest of their adult milestones - job, career, financial independence, marriage, kids, home etc.

I do not know what you can do at this stage of their life.   Your ACs do not seem to have the relationship of trust with you where they will appreciate whatever guidance you could give.  [b]I think 50% fail rate is pretty much indicative of how much "hands off" parenting you did.[/b]  [/quote]
The jerks are out full force tonight. 
I believe so, so much is luck and genetics. Mine that I was most hands on parenting with is my least successful, failure to launch kid. You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make them drink. [/quote]

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