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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Co-owning a summer/weekend house like this is the end of so many family relationships. It is always a tension point, at best.

Can you afford to pay for 1/2 of the furniture? If so, just do it. [b]If you literally can't afford it -- it will seriously harm you financially[/b] -- then that is the answer. "We can't afford this kind of expensive furniture and decor. We can't pay for half of this. You chose to do this, and we would not have agreed to it if you had included it in the expense accounting for the year." You didn't say in your OP that you can't afford it though ... which I'm guessing you would have if that is the case? In which case there is just a lot of judgment around the choice to spend so much? If that is so, just pay for half to maintain the relationship.

Oh, and if you sell to them? NO DISCOUNT. Sell to them for FMV only. [/quote]

So you allow people - family - to lie to you and take advantage of you, and only push back if it will "seriously harm your finances?"  DO whatever you want, but I hope OP and her husband have enough sense, and self respect, to draw the line well before that.  [/quote]

You are way overreacting to what I wrote, for who knows what reason. Not sure why you think there are "lies" involved here. Bottom line is that if you have plenty of money, you don't let something like this blow up. It is not worth it (and could end up costing you more than 1/2 the cost of the furniture would have). [/quote]

Not overreacting at all.  You wrote that you would pay whatever was asked, just to maintain the relationship.  I, and may others, think that's absurd.

Moreover, the OP wrote:

[quote]DH asked the uncle two months ago for the amount he should cut for the summer 2025 expenses, including a line item outline of the expenses. DH then cut the check and didn't think much more about it.

Today a copy of a bill arrives, indicating we need to reimburse for half the cost of new DR furniture. This was never discussed with us. And you can tell from the date on the bill that the uncle knew about this when he gave the summer 2025 expenses to DH. Basically, they want a more luxe set-up and want us to subsidize it. [/quote]

OP's husband asked for the summer's expenses, they told him, and he paid them.  After that, they purchased new furniture without seeking any input, even though from the date of the bill it's apparent that they knew about it when they listed the expenses in the first place.  I don't know any other way to characterize that other than lying.  Do you?  And even giving them the benefit of the doubt and assuming it came up after the fact, they knew the summer expenses had already been paid.  They could have asked the DH about it, but they chose not to.  These people suck, and OP shouldn't continue to enable that behavior.  [/quote]

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