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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Even the OP of this (really pedantic) thread misses an opportunity:

(1) Favoritism disadvantages people with neurodivergencies;
(2) Most coaches (outside of perhaps special educators) are ill-equipped to see beyond the conformist-behaved child and work within a neurodivergency rather than push against it and blackball it;
(3) Many replies to this post support (1) and (2), suggesting an outcast status — notwithstanding swimming ability — for children who are unable to conform to average (or exceptional) attention span, average (or exceptional) engagement, and average (or exceptional) communication.
This post says more about people’s disfavor for neurodivergent children than it does about private planes and giving a kid a spot in an A meet (which, BTW, you can look up the private plane borrower’s children to see where the facts stand to that end).

We need to do better.[/quote]

I read this as, “my kid requires significant special and extra attention for the same price as everyone else.  S/he doesn’t get that attention, and that’s a problem.  Society is broken.”   I’d love to be corrected if this isn’t the case.

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Dp: I don’t know if that’s what she meant. You should really look at it in the light of a different kind of attention and understanding versus special or extra.

If you have a deaf kid, they’re not going to hear your instructions well, but with the right attitude they’ll follow you. A deaf kid with regular attitude will not follow you as well. So you either have to make adjustments to your coaching or to your ego and not take it personally.

In the case of the neurodivergent kid, as a coach, you don’t actually ‘see’ the disability like you would deafness. So, you chalk it up to misbehavior or extra attention.

Maybe if you’re a better human, you’d come in with the desire for a better attitude.

Yes, society is imperfect, but these coaches are not just anyone. They’re in a special position, like teachers. Therefore we should expect better from them. [/quote]

Most of coaches are broke and trying to deal with dozens of kids and their uptight moms at the same time.  If anything, we should expect better from the parents.  [/quote]

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