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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP.here..Thank you all for the responses. Let me just clarify I don't mind dating someone with student loans. I have a very good salary and good earning potential. I deal with risk in my professional life and I can easily run the numbers. However, I just want to know how do I actually approach this topic without offending the person. In my last 2 dates we weren't a good match so I didn't probe them further about the student loans so just knew the amount were astronomical.

Of course I don't expect every woman I'll date to have big student loans. The last 2 could very well be outliers.

I let the "one" slip away in college. I still think about her from time to time. She was ready and I wasn't. So I don't want to let go another one and if my next date has big student loans I just want tips on how to discuss about it without sounding too nerdy. I am already nerdy to begin with.

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It isn’t offensive to ask straightfowardly by the 3rd or 4th date** but you should be able to surmise a general idea early from listening to her talk about her history. Is she a JD or PhD? Does she have a Masters and work at a non-profit? Did she go to a state school or a costly private?

**At this point ask her about her undergrad/grad experience. Did she love it or hate it, was it all worth it, taking on student loans suck amirite haha? Be light-hearted and non-judgmental and the details will flow from there. Boom, conversation done, now you know.

You seem kind of judgmental from the jump since you come off as thinking being an actuary with a BS is automatically superior other careers that require higher ed.[/quote]

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