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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think its fine to skip a year and prioritize your immediate family and time with your kids.  I think it would be nice for the adults to visit their parent alone.  But if you really don't have that type of relationship then don't feel guilty.  [/quote]

Yes - to be clear, I visited my mother regularly (and she visited us regularly) before she died. My dad has never made us a priority and has always been emotionally abusive. He didn’t visit us much even when he was young, healthy, and had time and money. Step-mom is younger than I am (by a year) so they don’t really need help. The relationship feels performative. [/quote]

Are you OP? It seems like you have your answer.[/quote]

Exactly. She doesn't like the father and the father doesn't really like her. His wife probably will be relieved to not put up with OP and her brood. Just accept it for what it is and move on with minimal guilt. So long as she's not hoping for an inheritance one day.[/quote]

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