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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Our kids definitely had some rough times. 
I’m sorry it was like this for yours. The calls are really tough. I ended up visiting twice at those times.

I know you don’t need advice. Reading the parent FB page this year was pretty sad with a number of posts about miserable kids socially. It did make me wonder how many kids struggled socially in high school or were they super happy in high school and now experiencing what many people go through at some point. Some of the parents seemed like their kid had never struggled before.[/quote]

Totally anecdotal, but it seems to me that a very high percentage of the unhappy kids had big friend groups and a very active social life in high school. Particularly [b]if a kid was in the same school pyramid their whole life[/b], they may not have had to make new friends since kindergarten. If they don’t click with their roommate or don’t make the team or get into the sorority they want, there may not be an obvious or easy path to the busy social life that they’re used to. The introverts don’t have very high expectations and just find one or two friends and expand their friend group slowly. [/quote]
I also see elements of this in our DC1's cohort (who are now Freshman/1st Yr in college). Many had a rough go of it coming into HS with school closures.

I've also been reflecting on the bolded -- as I watch the boundary review in FCPS from afar. We're not in DMV and the nature of our mid-sized public school Division is quite different. Lopsided split feeders (anything outside of 60/40 or more equal) from MS to HS is undesired but, otherwise, almost every single MS is a split feeder. And every HS has a "center" or "academy" (that is application-based) so there's a LOT of mixing at the HS level. On the whole, I think that's been better all-around. Both our DCs were easily able to shed toxic or just mismatched ES/MS relationships and were able to keep the ones they really wanted, esp if reciprocated.

But hang in there OP. Encourage your DC to ponder when they return for the Summer. Return, transfer, take-a-break/work should all be on the table. Although the grass isn't always greener elsewhere, sometimes it's just as important to know what you [i]don't[/i] want....and you often won't figure [i]that[/i] out until you've tried it.[/quote]

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