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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Our kids definitely had some rough times. 
I’m sorry it was like this for yours. The calls are really tough. I ended up visiting twice at those times.

I know you don’t need advice. Reading the parent FB page this year was pretty sad with a number of posts about miserable kids socially. It did make me wonder how many kids struggled socially in high school or were they super happy in high school and now experiencing what many people go through at some point. Some of the parents seemed like their kid had never struggled before.[/quote]

Totally anecdotal, but it seems to me that a very high percentage of the unhappy kids had big friend groups and a very active social life in high school. Particularly if a kid was in the same school pyramid their whole life, they may not have had to make new friends since kindergarten. If they don’t click with their roommate or don’t make the team or get into the sorority they want, there may not be an obvious or easy path to the busy social life that they’re used to. The introverts don’t have very high expectations and just find one or two friends and expand their friend group slowly. [/quote]

My thoughts also. My son has an amazing tight knit group of friends; core group have been friends since kindergarten. Small HS, never had that uncomfortable feeling of having to make new friends. He is so social at home, not so much at college. Hoping things change next year. [/quote]

+1 my kid is at a school mentioned. He attended a new private HS, so started over. He was on so many different club teams, camps where he knew nobody prior. He was used to having to start from scratch, meet people. He got involved right away. Made a club team, joined a club, reached out/formed a lot of friends that first week- just training at the field on his own he met some future club team members. He had different friend groups at home- old friends, friends from new HS, club team, etc. I think he also was never into status-popularity, always did what he wanted. I was amazed at so many opportunities he went out and grabbed and the relationships he already made with professors. He even set up study abroad for Fall of sophomore year and even joined a team outside of the school- different state.

Before he left We told him to get outside of his dorm room as much as possible- which he did. He also hit the roommate jackpot - great kid. He has a really good group of supportive friends- not drinkers/drugs—work out together, play poker, pick up, etc.

Best of luck to everyone! I hope sophomore year gets better. [/quote]

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