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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We had a family member who revisited custody 10 months after the original agreement, although they ended up settling, because the other parent was taking almost non of their parenting.  On the days when they were supposed to pick up from school, they simply wouldn't show.

They ended up settling out of court, because the parent who wasn't parenting's lawyer said they were going to lose.[/quote]

Parents working cannot pick up directly after school.  There is clearly more to this.[/quote]

In this case, the working parent was the one who was picking up.

But even if you are a working parent, if your custody agreement says your parenting time starts at dismissal on Tuesday, then you need to make a plan for your kids starting at dismissal on Tuesday.  It can be aftercare, or a babysitter, or kids go to a school where they ride the bus or walk home.  It might even be ask your ex to pick up the kids.   But the plan can’t be don’t show, ignore calls from the school, and let the school eventually call the other parent and then refuse to pay the late fees.

There were other things too but they added up to the kids never being with the other parent to the point that their own lawyer advised them to sign away custody.[/quote]

It is very difficult to get care only a few days a week.  Pick up your kid and let the other parent have them after work.  You are being difficult.  [/quote]

That’s not how it works dude. [/quote]

How easy is it to get car 1-2 days a week?[/quote]

For this family the kids were at a school with aftercare that you can enroll in for a few days a week.  She could also have called her ex and asked him to pick up the kids.  Or, since she wasn’t working she could have picked up the kids herself.  Any of these options are better than simply not showing up for visitation, and leaving your kids sitting in the front office of school.  [/quote]

Most after school programs have huge wait list.   There is clearly more to this.  [/quote]

Why would the status of "most" after school program be more relevant that the status of the after school program at these particular children's school?

Also, even if the mom worked in this situation, and even if it was hard to get aftercare, how would not having aftercare responsibility absolve her of the responsibility to let dad know that she wasn't going to be able to get the kids so that he could pick the kids up?  [/quote]

You are making up situations to argue with people.  What is your point?   Both parent need to work together.  [/quote]

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