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[quote=Anonymous]I have two brothers and a sister, (I am the youngest), we are all about 2 years apart, and I am not bonded with them.  An earlier post described a similar situation where he felt his mother was behind the disconnect.  This really resonates in my situation as I recall pretty distinctly my mother (who also suffered from mental illness) manipulating absolute devotion to herself and basically not wanting us to naturally bond.  My father, who was very sweet and kind, was unfortunately totally submissive to her.
My situation is also complicated in that two of my siblings are close to one another and they have scapegoated me.   I am 50 now but I am still pained by this family dynamic and have tried to put it behind me but it sometimes feels like an abscess that continues to fester and never heal.  I have a wonderful boyfriend whom I've been with for 3 years and two lovely teens who are happy and close to one another.  But--I feel this scapegoating and disconnect has infiltrated my own personal social life and I find it hard to make friends or when what I thought was a friendship connection fizzles out--I interpret it as further rejection.
Has anyone else experienced anything similar to this?[/quote]

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