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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have an 8 yo girl starting a new school next year for 3rd and worried about this too. Girl groups are really tough.

I agree with the posters saying not to stress over this particular group. Why don’t you try inviting some of the girls from the other class over or girls from her activities?

It’s hard when you and your daughter aren’t part of the in group that’s doing lots of cool things. Must be especially hard as someone new to the area and a SAHM. But a group like this that’s tight isn’t likely to welcome you in they haven’t already. So hence I think you need to branch out. Also don’t worry about who hosted what last — as the new person the burden is likely on you to put in more effort because they are inclined to just keep going about their lives as usual. [/quote]

OP here.  Good luck to your DD at her new school!  DD will be switching to the class that has the larger # of girls next year, so we’ll see if that helps her to get closer to them.  I’m not expecting much though as I agree with you that a group this tight is not going to be welcoming.  I think if it were just up to the girls, it would be fine, but the moms highly dictate the girls’ schedule outside of school and who they hang out with.  You’re right that as the new family, we have to keep making more of an effort (hopefully that will change by middle school), so I’ll keep hosting play dates so if DD and one of her friends asks and not worry about whose turn it is.[/quote]

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