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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you can’t fix your sibling’s relationship with your parents or the situation you were both in as children. Your sibling should not be blaming your for your parents’ actions.

That said, it sounds like you are only just now realizing that you were the favored child - “in hindsight.” So you were oblivious or ignored your sister’s feelings and the effect it had on your relationship after years of her feeling that way.[b] And now your answer is to “let” her shoulder most of the burden of taking care of your parents and carrying out family responsibilities.

You need to let her know you now, after many years, see how unequal things were when you were kids. And you need to try to make things more equal going forward - including taking on half of the family responsibilities. [/b]She shouldn’t have to keep trying to prove she is just as good as you. 
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That's not what I meant at all.  I let her dictate things like family holidays and vacations.  As in, she has a job that travel where travel at the holidays isn't always practival.  So we always go to my hometown- I would like to host sometime but don't push it (my parents have literally never travelled to us for a holiday).  When we take family vacations it's always the beach because she doesn't like the mountains.  Stuff like that.  I try to be agreeable and not rock the boat.[/quote]

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