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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is a mix of annoying and hurtful that my 20 something daughter can’t even take a minute to send me a text acknowledging Easter (let alone an actual phone call).

She knows I am alone.

[b]When I think of the hours and days I spent making every holiday happy and memorable throughout her childhood, I am so disappointed. [/b]

(And before you ask, I mailed her a card last week,after she declined more traditional gestures.)[/quote]

I’m sorry you’re hurt, OP. But, ugh, I read the bolded and just feel crushed by the weight of your martyrdom on behalf of your daughter. Note to all parents of young children: do these things if you enjoy them, not in expectation of some sort of payback. [/quote]

Spoken like a true American. Your family clearly has been here many, many decades for you to be so disrespectful. There is nothing wrong with having an expectation that your child would offer you a text on a holiday. If
Ts not like she asked for dinner or a card. Give me a break.[/quote]

You seem like a very entitled clown. What country are you from?[/quote]

Well, I am American, but agree with the PP.

Some of these responses seem kind, suggesting how OP might make the best of her situation.

A different question is whether adult family members who are thoughtful reciprocate when someone they love wishes them a happy holiday. Where is the pathology (“neediness”) in that expectation? Seems like simple manners? Kindness? [/quote]

So it's not just an American thing then.

The pathology is when some parent with full ability to text and reach out and who is in the position of authority (as the mom) whines and complains about their child not reaching out to them, instead of just maturely sending a text. When they expect to be catered to and doted on instead of taking the mature position and initiating contact if that's what they desire, but silently resenting and stewing over it. Truly pathetic behavior. [/quote]

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