Reply to Need to stop vacationing with parents

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Need to stop vacationing with parents"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Either say no or try to do advance planning and get a schedule together.

I often vacation with family and I have
Strong opinions about making sure I can do the things I want on our trips. So what I do is send out a text to everyone (including my own family) asking what they want to do and giving a date
For response. Then I compile the list, eliminating the inevitable duplicates.

I then send the out list and ask if there is anything anyone plans to sit out. Once
I get that back I put together a schedule and send that out. If there is too much to do, at least something from everyone’s list will be included. And I make sure that there is at least one suggestion from every person that fits within the entire group’s abilities that gets on the list.

I know this sounds controlling but it isn’t really. It’s my effort to make sure everyone is satisfied and that I make the most out of our vacations. And everyone who travels with us loves this.  [/quote]
This sounds utterly awful. This is why extended families should not vacation together. [/quote]

We usually go on vacation with my 80-something parents for a week during the summer - and given our stage of life, it's generally our big trip of the year. For us it works because we're not expected to all do the same thing together all day. We like to get out and about more while my mom - who has significant mobility issues - would rather hang out at the house (we usually rent a house with them). But she doesn't complain when we do our own thing. We do have to compromise on food - but we give and take with that.

Just to say - is it as fun as if we jetted off ourselves somewhere? Of course not. But at this stage of life - and living away from family - I really value this time together, and luckily my spouse understands that.

Is there any part of you that wants to keep doing this trip? If so, can you talk to your parents about what's not working for you and see if there's a way to all get what you need?[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics