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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Jesus, the man is proud of his family and home.   Cooking isn’t that difficult and getting the kids to a practice and coordination of a ride home for them should not be either.   [/quote]

Np. And that’s lovely. He should feel free to to ensure the home is clean and ready to welcome the guest. As well as prepare a meal or order the takeout.

Seriously, this stuff falling on women has got to go. [/quote]

This. If it's so super meaningful and important to your DH, then your DH can clean the house and cook the meal. Makes sense, right?[/quote]

+2, there is something inherently retrograde about OP's DH expecting her to take the lead on this. And they both work? And OP would have to rearrange her schedule to accommodate? No. The DH can take a few hours of leave if this is important to him, to get the house ready and prepare a meal or pick up food or whatever. That's not on OP.

Early in our relationship, my DH's parents would come to visit and they would arrive midafternoon. I worked from home at the time, and DH expected to be able to just stay at work for his normal schedule and get home at 6:30pm or whatever. It was a hard no for me. I had a job, and my ILs showing up in the middle of the afternoon effectively meant I wasn't going to get any work done for the rest of the day. It also dumped on me getting the house ready for them since of course DH would do nothing to get the house clean or the guest room ready beforehand. And then DH wouldn't be home until 6:30 so I'd either have to get dinner ready or figure out where we were going out to dinner because while we are fine eating at 8pm on a weeknight, my ILs wouldn't be able to do that.

DH fought me on this for a while but I just set a firm boundary and said no. Finally one day he was like "oh you are right, of course I should just leave work a bit early so I can be there to greet my parents." I don't know exactly what changed but I suspect he discussed it with a friend or coworker who told him "oh my wife would kill me if I tried that." Because it's so rude! Take 2-3 hours off work to host your family or friend! It's not that hard.[/quote]

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