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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As others have said - its all about giving them a story to save face / feel like a good dad.  Frame it as maintaining the routine for the kids, indicate (if you will) that dad can make additional plans with kids when he's free and that if his job situation changes you'll be open to changes too.  They need to be able to tell themselves that they're doing what's best for the kids, not worry they're being perceived as not wanting or prioritizing the kids (even if that's reality)[/quote]

Agree with this. My XH wants to do whatever he wants, whenever he wants, not have his personal life weighed down by kids. He had zero interest in 50/50 and never asked for it. I framed it as maintaining routine & stability at home and allowing flexibility bc he travels so much (both work and to entertain himself). He sees kids about one night a week for dinner or an overnight, which seems to work for everyone because he's interested in "visiting" with them but not actually parenting. He prefers to spend his time with his new GF whom my kids don't want to be around bc she's not nice to them. My kids still have a relationship with their dad but they also seem to be figuring out he's not really invested in raising them. He thinks he's a great dad because he pays child support.[/quote]

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