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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She is refusing to post college decision post bc she hates how she looks, she looks ugly in all the pics… she is objectively wrong bc not one person on earth would think she is not pretty. She’s a conventionally attractive person and the pics are great. She is always like this and it means [b]she agonizes about posting anything, then is upset she did not post…[/b][/quote]

I have a younger teen who will agonize about things, not do them, then get upset. Not posting college decisions obviously (or any posting, as she's not on social media), but the same pattern of simultaneously wanting to do something and being afraid to do it. Is it the agonizing you are most worried about?

It's really tough to walk her through because you know she wants both things in some ways (to post to be seen and not to in order to stay safe) and you can't help her get that!

Can you get through to what's behind the hyper-criticism? What's she worried is going to happen - people are going to be over critical and talk behind her back or to her face? What's the worst case scenario of not posting?

Or if you're not so worried about the agonizing but you're worried about the body image issues, then focus on that apart from this one post.[/quote]

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