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[quote=Anonymous]I feel your pain. My in-laws desperately want vacations with us. They expect to be included every summer on our big overseas trip, mostly paid for by us. I don’t mind occasional travel with them (at our discretion) but am done giving up entire yearly vacations that I plan and pay for to watch them monopolize every moment with my kids. We tried having a nice conversation about it. It didn’t go well and they were oblivious to their sense of entitlement. Last summer I had to just rip the bandaid off and tell them we were taking a trip by ourselves and we could plan something with them at another time. I also made sure to state that we would not be traveling together every year. I could have been nicer in my delivery but damn, I was at a breaking point and DH was not handling it. It took some time, but they finally seem to get it.

There is nothing wrong with saying that long vacations are for your immediate family because of the time, money, and planning that goes into them and the short window of time you have with your kids before they graduate. If they want quality time together, you can do that in different ways which might be a weekend trip or a holiday celebration or a special activity. You are under no obligation to give in-laws the grandparent experience they desire if it doesn’t fit your needs. [/quote]

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