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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Boys need
A mom at home.
Almost zero screen time.
Male and female friends, in real life.
A good education, either at home or in a private school.
Lots of fresh air every day.

If you're not doing that, you're gonna have a bad time. Bottom line.[/quote]

I found the right wing incel. Be for real. [b]Mom at home isn't happening in this economy[/b]. Public schools have better educated teachers than private schools that require minimal education and training.

I want responses from real people who live in the real world.[/quote]

I know. Public schools have been doing a great job.

Sarcasm aside, your Mom at home is impossible remark is a myth. My family does it on low six-figures, but I know families that do it with Dad earning anywhere between 75k and 600k. Just scale your lifestyle, prioritize the important things first.[/quote]

Yeah no. I'm not putting this on women and moms. [b]Dads need to step up.[/b] If you had said a parent at home, I might have
considered your point of view. But you i specifically singling out moms and by extension women, no I don't take you seriously. Why can't a father stay at him? What if the woman earns more and it's in the family's interest for her to keep her job.

YOU sound like the incel.[/quote]

+1 and positive masculine role models generally. When DS was struggling with school in 8th-9th grade, a couple of tutors who were young men in their 20s really inspired him to try harder. He participated in a regular volunteer activity at church and his job mostly involved hanging out with two grandfathers at the church. He'd been taking guitar lessons so I asked a friend's husband to ask him to join him in playing guitar at church. He got to know lots of men making a positive contribution in the world.

DH was an involved dad too but often boys take some of these lessons better from someone else. DS also has ADHD and was at the peak of poorly managed impulsive behavior at that 8-9th grade stage and seemed to hit every one of DH's buttons.

I know we have to be very careful about the other adults in our kids' lives because of horrible abusive behavior that has and still does happen. But cutting out all opportunities for relationships with other adults hurts boys by limiting their role models to people they see in social media. [/quote]

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