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[quote=Anonymous]I have a high-functioning autistic young adult who does not socialize and rarely goes outside, except to go to class (he has environmental allergies 9 months of the year). I have finally persuaded him to go to his campus gym, which is an important step forward.

This is the type of profile that's most at risk, OP. 
Someone with a brain but with an empathy disorder. That's short hand, of course - autistic people don't lack empathy, but often don't automatically understand how and where to apply it. They often over or under-react, which makes them liable to extreme decision-making. I spent his entire childhood being vigilant about his high-functioning autism, explaining people's motivations and non-verbal cues, building on his therapy sessions, hiring ostensibly academic tutors who also quickly saw his socio-emotional weaknesses and gravitated towards reading comprehension and explaining how life works.

So I keep tabs on him every day. We Facetime, I check he's doing well, talking to professors since he won't talk to other students, that he's eaten, gone to the gym, etc. He comes home regularly and we do stuff together, he get along well with us parents and his little sister. If he can get a stable job in his chosen profession, and be functional enough not to get bullied and ostracized, it will go a long way towards making him an entirely innocuous and productive member of society. So far he's shown to be someone who wouldn't hurt a fly, and I hope to keep it that way.

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