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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP again. They do have my aunt and uncle who live about three hours away by car and live in a very nice region with entertainment year round plus a pretty and walkable downtown. I looked up condos there and they’d he able to buy something all cash. But they said no as soon as I mentioned it once about a year ago. Not sure why this wouldn’t be more appealing. I get that they don’t know much else. But it would make sense being that they all get along, are fairly religious, love going to church, and they could help each other out. But alas, it doesn’t sound like that will be an acceptable option . 🤷‍♀️[/quote]

OP I have found from my own experience and friends' experiences the whole moving to be near same age siblings/friends rarely works out as hoped so no big loss there, though it sounds like a more fun place to visit. Many stories of a sister moving close to a sister and within a year or 2, moving away or friends all retire in same area and have a blast for the first few years, but everyone ages and develops burnout from all the helping of eachother and then some start moving closer to their kids, or passing away or they just can't help because they have their own illness.

Also, and this taboo to discuss, but sometimes they move to be near adult children and grandchildren and it may work out well for a year, or a few years, but eventually if the decline is long, dramatic and bumpy enough, the younger generation can burn out from all the emergencies and elder dramatics to the point they cannot even stand to visit the AL (more likely the elder is mean-spirited, but can happen regardless). Some people who lose their parents young or only dealt with a few emergencies will cringe, but as adult children deal with their own family emergencies from kids to spouses to themselves and get stretched enough things can fall apart.

My point is, the grass may seem greener with other options, but it really depends on what aging looks like, the temperament of the parents, the amount of stressors the adult children face beyond againg parents and so much more.

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