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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm surprised to see so much Holton on here. I haven't heard that. Is it based on recent info? Or a few years ago (when I did hear it more)?[/quote]

No, recent.

The thing about Holton is that if the girl fits certain profiles, she can go straight through with no issues at all. And if she doesn't, it's a nightmare. And the behavior is true, classic relational aggression, not straight up bullying. So for the outsider girls, there's no concrete behavior to point to and say "this is hurtful." Instead, it's just being iced out, pitied, quietly sidelined in activities and classes. There is nothing to fight. You are simply invisible.

It is not an inclusive place. At all.[/quote]

What are the “certain profiles”?[/quote]

Sporty, outgoing, no academic struggles (does not need to be an academic superstar, but no obvious academic weaknesses, or if she has them, parents are 100% on top of them with tutors and support), on the preppy side (not overly artsy or alternative), parents should be sociable but not overbearing, no known family drama.[/quote]

I wonder why the artsy/alternative/nerdy girls don’t band together and be their own group and just ignore the drama from the preppy ones. [/quote]

You can be artsy or nerdy, but not in a way that stands out as too different. You need to be clean cut, dress similarly, you can't be too shy or do anything that could get you labeled as "weird." You can't have obsessive interests, be obviously neurodivergent. Or you can, but you will be ostracized.

To answer another poster, sporty is not a deal breaker but it helps so, so much. You don't have to be a star athlete. But playing at least one sport helps a lot socially, even if your focus is elsewhere.

If you spend any time at the school, you will get a feel for the kind of girl who fits. It is not for everyone. Whereas a school like Madeira or Sandy Springs or GDS is much more broadly accepting of kids who are different or off-beat. My kid was NOT a Holton girl. She's amazing but quirky, hates sports, has several obsessive interests, and she takes a while to warm up to people and then once you know her she has super goofy personality. Holton is a terrible environment for a kid like that.[/quote]

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