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[quote=Anonymous]I was a “quitter” when I was younger. Later I blamed my parents for not making me stick with things. But I realized that ultimately it was my low self esteem that prevented me from more fully engaging in activities and sports, due to social anxiety and having an underlying feeling that I did not deserve success or to have what I wanted. And now I blame my parents, particularly my mother, for that extremely low self esteem.

Now, as a parent I think the key is being able to recognize when the kid truly does not want to do the activity versus they are going through a rough time due to mental health issues or being tired from school or having to wake up too early for middle school or whatever. My son went through a few years at that age where it was often difficult to get him to go to swim practice. He was legitimately very tired while going through growth spurts and just slept whenever he had the chance, as reflected in his freshman grades. After getting over that hump, he now eagerly goes to his practices and looks forward to meets. He truly loves swimming. I knew he really did which is why I spent the effort prodding him during the difficult years, and now it is paying off.[/quote]

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