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[quote=Anonymous]Pros and cons either way.

I had mine at 29 and 32. Young in our circles, but not really young. 
I didn’t make enough money to make daycare worthwhile until the kids were 2 and 5. It was a bumpy few years. My mom, who talked big about helping with the babies, didn’t actually feel like it when the time came. The other moms in my community either had husbands who made enough for them to SAH comfortably, or they made enough to afford high quality child care. I was the odd one out who couldn’t afford daycare and my husband was an immigrant and did not make that much money, so we lived in some questionable places.

However, things got better and by the time my kids were both in ES, I hit my stride in my career. When I was 38, many of my same-age coworkers were leaning out to have babies, but I was leaning in with the knowledge that I would be able to keep leaning in. Now I am 45 with teens who will be heading to college soon. I will be hitting retirement age just as my kids (with luck) start having their own families, and I will be able to be an active, involved grandma. And if I find out I’m not really able to be very hands on, at least I will be able to help them with things like down payments and college funds and other things my parents did not help with.

It was rough for a few years but I’m glad I had mine “young”. Later on I might not have gotten pregnant so easily. And I would have been more tired.

If OP’s daughter has better financial circumstances than I did, I really don’t see the downside.[/quote]

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