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[quote=Anonymous]My sister had her kids at 27 and 29.  I had my kids at 38, 40, and 43.   I can see upsides and downsides to each pattern.

(fWIW I didn’t I tend to have kids so late.   We started trying at 30 and it took until 38 to be successful with IVF and we got lucky with our other frozen embryos.)

My sister definitely has an easier life now that we are in our 50s.  Her youngest is out of college and I have a Kindergartner.  She has been able to transition to a different and easier career because she just has to coast to retirement at this point and I have many years of kid expenses still before me.

What is interesting to me is that she is only two years older than me, but she feels like an elderly aunt to my kids. Her life has the rhythms of a person much older than me, so she seems much older.  She is healthy and active but just has a middle aged life. My life is busier and I have to stay in a younger mindset because our family is still in the building phase.

I wouldn’t choose those 8 years of infertility because they were horrible, but the upside is that I am 50 and still have a lot of family life to look forward to. My sister is now looking back on things already finished.  That is one upside of being an older parent.

But, if your daughter is ready now, she should go for it. She might end up like me and be an older parent anyway.  You don’t always get to choose and you make the best of whatever situation you end up with.  
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