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[quote=Anonymous]PP: Also is MIL seeing the correct specialists/subspecialists?

OP back and no. Again, so frustrating. The entire family is in denial. FIL opted NOT to have any further testing done on MIL saying that it was too invasive (spinal tap was one such test) AND years ago MIL said she’d rather  
end her existence than to get a diagnosis of Alzheimer’s. Her mother died of dementia.

So, FIL covered for her as long as he could and when he grew concerned, got her to a doctor under false pretenses (something like a a flu shot) and then by prior arrangement had the physician administer an MMSE baseline. MIL was shocked to have this suddenly given to her but nonetheless failed. This prompted the GP to advise further testing done and apparently MIL and FIL decided quickly that they’d go no further.

MIL says she “feels fine” and only admits to no longer driving. My MIL refuses to believe she has any sort of cognitive impairment and no one in the family is to mention Alzheimer’s or her astounding memory loss.

FIL is notoriously cheap and generally suspicious of any professional help or even public service. They’ve never had house cleaners, lawn service, exterminators nor any maintenance techs in their home-ever-for over 30 years. It would be an incredible leap for FIL to get MIL “outside” help (aide or visiting nurse) and we can’t even get him to look into adult day services.

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