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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP - I should've explained that their dad *asked* me to move to this particular area because he was going to move there in the summer. When I balked, he threatened to take our special needs kid out of her school, so I went. The time away from them was meant to be temporary - I didn't understand how low he would go with his lies, and that as soon as I moved out he would capitalize on it and reneg on what he said.

I know I know, I was dumb. I filed shortly after. [/quote]

So this was 2 years ago?  Sounds like you should be looking to move back by now.  [/quote]

OP - I have a lawyer now. It's not advised to move right now. I'm actually still in the oldest's school district and all kids as they get older will be in my area eventually which is why I moved here, so I could be close to them. I'm just not in the elementary district, which has astronomical prices ($3 million median home). I'm not really looking for legal advice. Just for commiseration on the system and how it seems like doing the "right things" screwed me over. [b]If I could go back I would've not gotten a job[/b], stayed in the house and filed for divorce instead of separating. I did not protect myself and basically jeopardized my custody by relying on his word and trying to be independent. [/quote]

You should have had a job the whole time. You should not have given up your job in the first place. You put yourself in this situation by having fewer resources. [/quote]

OP - Yes I agree. Quitting my job was part of XH’s manipulation. He wanted me to take care of the kids during the pandemic. I never should’ve quit, it opened me up to being extremely vulnerable to financial abuse. [/quote]

Take som responsibility for how your life ended up.   [/quote]

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