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[quote=Anonymous]11:42 back. Been thinking about you, OP. One thing I've noticed in my experience is once the caregiver hears something a few times, they start to almost think of it on their own. I've said a lot of things that get ideas started and then weeks later they say we need such-and-such that I originally mentioned.

I think a lot of it is likely FIL is simply continuing on as-is. Like he could just do whatever his wife needed for 40 or 50 years, so that's the default. He vowed to do it, even. Plus day-to-day she probably changes imperceptibly. You can see it because you don't see her all the time. Other types of care and getting help are not breaking his vows, but he doesn't see it that way, probably partially because he's so busy just doing stuff.

Anyway, I'd encourage you to keep sharing your ideas because you have a more removed perspective. You can also say a coworker or friend did X that really helped their parents to remove it even further. The world is also a lot different from when maybe his parents had needs. Healthcare is tough to navigate.

Also is MIL seeing the correct specialists/subspecialists?[/quote]

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