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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A long-time friend has gotten involved with a married man.  At first it was a one night stand with an old friend but now it’s turning into a fling and possibly something more.  This man’s wife is pregnant, they already have a small child, my friend found out and she STILL is entertaining this schmuck.

Her argument is that it’s not her responsibility to protect this man’s relationship.  I think that’s about as good a defense as someone saying they didn’t commit the bank robbery, they just drove the car.

I tell my friend that everything gross about this man aside, is this even what/who she wants for her life?  She calls me morally righteous.  I’m having a hard time with this.  WWYD?

And, the “not my relationship, not my problem” argument is so weak and ridiculous.  I just can’t get behind it. [/quote]

Her argument may be that it's not her job to protect his marriage, it's his, and I agree on that point. But it's 100% her job to be a high-integrity person, and this isn't right. She's framing it as 'his marriage' and not 'my affair enabling an adulterer' because it projects the responsibility off her and solely onto him.

He is responsible for cheating on his wife, AND she is responsible for enabling that mess, knowing full well he has a kid and one on the way. It's less about what she wants for her life and more who she's willing to be.

Morally righteous isn't an insult, and her throwing it at you like one is a tell. She knows this is the wrong thing to do. Be a good friend and put your foot down: you don't want to hear about it, and honestly? you don't really want to hang as long as she's involved in this. Maybe watching you do the right thing will help her do the right thing too. Maybe you'll lose a low-integrity friend. I think you'll come out fine either way, and I hope she comes along.[/quote]

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