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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The very ability to give criticism suggests receptivity to the information.
I'm 55 and I have only criticized my mother's parenting ONCE because she could not take it. And it was a light criticism (she parked her kids in front of the TV and we all developed myopia as we scooched closer and closer to the tv as she yelled louder and louder during her gossip sessions with her friends on the phone). There was much much worse in the form of abuse and parental alienation.
I know her personality well enough to understand that any criticism is pointless and would dissolve into a fight. So to this day she is clueless why her kids moved far away from her.[/quote]

Follow up - the only reason she still has a relationship with her kids is because of our innate desire for a mother. Maybe it's also due to her willfull obliviousness to her faults.
So it is kind of a representational relationship, by that, I mean kind of surface-y.

If your parents have life-long friendships, that says something about them as a person, even with all their personality faults. 
My mother has lost a lot of old friendships because of bad history or embarassment about what she'd done.[/quote]

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