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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do people really believe boys inherently don’t like dancing and pretty things?  They pop out of your womb pre-programmed to like boring clothes and colors and wanting to play sports?  And the girls come out liking sparkle and wanting more clothing variety?

It’s all cultural norms.  If you have a child who actually has the confidence to know what he likes and shows interests outside of what he’s given and told to like, that is a pretty cool thing.  Most of us are just sheep.  I get it it’s worrying as a parent.  But try to focus on the positives.

Also he’s young and most likely his peers beat this out of him.  Then you’ll feel sad.[/quote]

My teen son who is very straight and typically male now always commented on his older sisters friends clothes when he was little.  “I love the flowers on your shoes” and things like that.  Flowers are great!  He got mercilessly teased when he was five for riding his sisters purple bike with flowers and after that adhered more to male expectations but it made me sad.  If you look in history many men wore beautiful velvet and silk decorated with flowers!  Anyway I think you are doing all the right things.  If he asks to wear stuff like that in public you have a more difficult conversation about social norms and whether he is old enough and confident enough to want to buck those norms, or if there are smaller ways that he can express his taste (a pink polo, men’s socks with a floral pattern, men’s jewelry, etc.).  In the last 10 years men’s clothing choices have gotten much more diverse than they were 20 years ago.[/quote]

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