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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks everyone for your helpful comments.

My brother is there with them (they were vacationing together but he arrived a little later).

And it turns out the issue is gallstones so they are trying to figure out whether to medivac operate there. I am going to post in health for more feedback on that question.

Since I am the remote sibling- I am trying to figure out how I can help or at least not be a bother while this all goes down.

Can anyone share what they wished their very remote siblings would do?

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Thank him profusely, but then wait until things are calmer to ask him how you can be helpful. Know your boundaries though. If you aren't willing to fly out for the next emergency, let him know and figure out together how to approach boundaries with the parents. If your parents complain about him not being helpful enough or whatever, defend him. My sibling undermined me every chance she got and send a bunch of unwanted gifts (e.g. I had reversed diabetes and lost weight going off all sugar, she knew that and would not stop sending up junk food. Kids didn't want it, DH didn't and we asked her to stop.) I made it clear I needed her to support the boundaries I set with our parents. Instead she undermined me with them too.

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