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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]“She will give it up completely on her own time”

I know you think this, but some kids hold tight to those comfort items. Why wait until she’s permanently altered her soft palate?

If you’re trying to avoid upsetting your child, you’re in for a long parenting road. The kids I know who have these types of parents are the ones that are either unhinged at school because they make all the rules at home OR are extremely anxious because they feel like they have to be in charge and they are never challenged to do anything that makes them feel uncomfortable.

It’s okay to say no to a child. It’s okay to push them past their comfort zone. In fact that is how their brains grow and how they develop resilience. What if your child decides they’re not ready for kindergarten? You have to think about these things. You have to help them learn to develop and grow and that means overcoming roadblocks along the way. Look up “snowplow parents” —the outcomes are not good.[/quote]

Op here -  I do appreciate those concerns and I do not want one of those kids, it isn't permissive parenting, she has consequences for actions, does get told no when it's needed. And is strongly pushed to try things. There are things I will push harder on. I make sure her life isn't full of anxiety and also make sure she doesn't behave poorly or affect others.

It's more gentle parenting, and these that means there are some things I'll not push until they're needed. So pacifier when adult teeth come through (although I know she'll be without it long before then) and diapers before kindergarten. But if it's the summer before kindergarten starts that's just as fine as training next week. [/quote]

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