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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a level 1 ASD child and have been looking at private k because her IEP would not give her the level of support she needs to thrive (think 15 minutes/day) and our school district is roundly criticized by just about everyone we know for their special ed services.

It has been slim pickings for private school. When we disclose ASD, tolerance seems to go out the window most NT places, and they make clear that your child must be very “lite” on needs and behaviors. Often these schools will say they are not the right fit for DD without even taking a moment to hear her profile. Even many SN schools that help kids with things like “language based disabilities and ADHD” specifically say they are not a good fit for ASD children.

It’s very frustrating. We don’t want to be counseled out, and we want DD to be accepted for her neurodiversity, not just tolerated if she can “mostly fit in” which is why we are working hard to review our options. We found maybe 2 schools total that seem a good fit for our DD that have NT and ND children (definitely a quirky kids school vibe) and access to the gen ed curriculum.

I’m surprised you are finding NT private schools open to your child. I think you mentioned above that he has no friends due to these behaviors or at least most kids don’t want to play with him—this sounds pretty serious and I’m shocked some of this isn’t happening in preschool—hearing this alone makes me think he wouldn’t be tolerated at a private school.

My DD is clearly on the quirky side but has lots of friends and is well-liked at school despite some of her hard edges. And like I said, despite this the NT private schools are fairly discriminatory.

I think you should focus on inclusive elementary schools if you can find one in your area. Or if you haven’t gotten feedback from your therapists already, I’d ask where kids with his profile have been successful since they think he’s ready for NT private schools. I’d also ask what supports kids like him get at the school—in some cases ASD kids are only accepted to these schools if they have an aide to monitor their behavior. [/quote]I wish you good luck. Definitely slim pickings. I probably didn’t describe it well, but he’s well liked at school by everyone and has friends there. It’s out in the community where the problems are. I’m just at a loss regarding the stark difference. Probably a combo of my parenting and restraint collapse. I just hope none of it shows up at Kinder without the new environment and demands. We’ve made it 3 years at 2 different schools (we moved) without any incidents. Both of those schools wrote great letters of rec for NT privates based on knowing him. I’m nervous, but I’ll have to make a gut decision. I don’t want to put him in a more restrictive environment or in a less rigorous curriculum because of a fear that has never manifested. [/quote]

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