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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]you have to learn to take the guilt trips less personally.

or, develop responses that satisfy you and stick with them.

Mom, I'm doing the best I can here.  My child is sick; there is plenty for you to eat.

Mom, have you called [sister] lately?  I'm sure she'd love to hear from you.

Mom [distract with shiny object, do not respond to anything about food - such a sunny day!  Have you thought about sitting in this chair by the window? / Who do you like for the superbowl? / why don't you draw up a shopping list for me?  (whatever it says, it does'nt matter, just distrating her). ]

The issue of respite care for you, and your sister's role, is something else entirely.  You need more respite care.  Can you and your sister have an open and honest conversation about that?

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These are good tips. The thing is, I like my mom and don’t mind the caretaking that much, but I don’t want to be guilt tripped for not giving her a gourmet meal every day. [b]My sister doesn’t want anything to do with her care, and I respect that[/b]. I can’t force her anyway.[/quote]
The lie detector test determines: that is a lie!

Why would you make a post calling yourself the “good” daughter if you don’t think of her as the “bad” daughter? And saying that she’d only have to care for her for three months but “doesn’t care”. You clearly resent your sister and resent the caretaking. Lying to yourself and randos on the internet does you no good. [/quote]

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