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[quote=Anonymous]I really feel for your DD. I moved to a new private school in 7th grade, and it was tough. There were only a couple of other new kids, and I was the only new girl. The class wasn’t as small as what you’re describing, but the friend groups were very set. Most of the kids had been together since Kindergarten. And 7th grade was the worst for exclusionary behavior. I remember several other classmates getting iced out of friend groups they’d been part of since elementary school that year.

I met a few nice girls, but I wasn’t close with them for a least the first year. I occasionally saw them outside of school (usually to work on a group project or something like that), but didn’t have anything like the friendships I was used to. What really saved me was being part of a travel sports team outside of school. My teammates and I had big group sleepovers almost every weekend, which made my social situation at school so much more manageable. 8th grade was much better than 7th. I started getting invited to school friends’ birthday parties and sleepovers. By high school, I had found my place, and I’m still friends with some of those girls I met in middle school today.

If your DD has friends from her old school or an extracurricular, encourage her to rely on those friendships while she’s finding her footing socially at school. Prioritize allowing her to get together with those friends on the weekends. Reassure her that the adjustment to the new school will take time. And don’t be afraid to make a change if it seems like the school really isn’t a good fit.[/quote]

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