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[quote=Anonymous]I don't think you're asking for which locations to choose but how to overcome decision paralysis, right?

I used be an expat and traveled TONS - and there was no decision paralysis; we just sort of went wherever we happened to be able to get a flight that matched up with the amount of time we wanted to get away. Also I was with a person who LOVED travel, and so that was just something we did a ton together.

Now I'm not an expat and am married to someone who doesn't travel like that - now most of our travel is to see family (so that's not a lot of decision making).

But we do usually take a weekend or two away by ourselves every year - and for that, we do try to approach this from a sense of bounty rather than scarcity. In other words, we don't do this like, this is the only trip we're ever going to take and so every second has to COUNT. Instead, we usually just pick someplace we've have a bit of itnerest in that we can drive to within 3 or 4 hours, and where we can find a nice place to stay (a cool hotel or nice airbnb). Then my spouse watches about 1000 youtube videos about the place and comes up with a rough itinerary, and it usually ends up being a lot of fun.

We usually rent a place with my family for a week over the summer - and some parameters help make that manageable, decision-wise. My parents want to drive, not fly, so that limits the geographical area; then we start looking for VRBOs and Airbnbs to see where we can find a place we all like at the price we've all agreed on. Then we find consensus.

In both those cases, it's important not to feel like this trip has to be THE TRIP but is just "A" trip we're going on, hopefully one of many. We can enjoy it without having to feel like it has to be EVERYTHING.

When we take a bigger trip just us - we do run into more decision paralysis. I wish we didn't but it's honestly hard to just pick a frigging place to go when there are so many places we'd like to go to and there's no great reason to choose one over another (and our vacation time/money is so limited). Then one of us just finally says, let's go to XX and the other says yes or no.

But I think there, too, we really need to change our approach to one more of bounty and not scarcity. Scarcity makes you feel like it has to be EVERYTHING - bounty just means you're going somewhere new and will hopefully see some cool stuff and eat a really good pastry while you're there. I find the latter a much more pleasant way to choose, and to live - but I don't always actually get into that mindset.[/quote]

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