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[quote=Anonymous] New poster.

Someone said "why does the number matter" but I think that PP is missing the point. I want to address one part of what OP observed about this guy.

OP did note that he has moved from relationship to relationship since he was 18, with one divorce in the mix so far-- that's not about number of sexual partners (which should include one-night stands, brief "relationships" that really are just for sex, etc.).

Instead, if OP is saying he goes from "this is my Official Girlfriend now" to "THIS one's the real thing, she's Girlfriend for keeps" over and over, well, that's about a guy needing [i]always[/i] to be In. A. Relationship. Always needing a "girlfriend" to be seen with and do things with, not just sex.  And that is in itself a red flag about him. I know, this is just an anecdote, but take it for what it's worth, OP: I had a close relative (guy) who was like this from high school all the way until his death in his 60s, and it indicates a lot of potential issues: Seeing women as something to give him a role and possibly status (maybe his family expects him to be always attached and hopes he'll marry, or maybe friends all have girlfriends so he wants one too. And showing off that he "treats a woman well!" which was how my relative was.

A guy who has a few serious committed relationships? Fine. A guy who moves from girlfriend to girlfriend, not just sex partners but women he says he's officially with, especially if he's prone to announcing that each one is "The One"? Red flag. [/quote]

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