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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Last straw for me was inviting a flaky friend to my house for lunch.

She arrived late and pretty much spent the entire time on her phone. Ate quickly and left. It was all so weird. 
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Same. I made lunch and they didn’t show up. Later, found out the person had major depression.

I felt kind of bad afterward that I did the slow fade. I still miss that person sometimes.

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I no longer miss her. Sorry, but I did a lot of self-reflection and gave this relationship a great deal of thought and insight. To counter PP who contends that a slow fade or ghosting is cowardly, I disagree. When a relationship is so one sided and focused only upon the other persons needs and schedule and fragile emotions, I am done. This isn’t sustainable and isn’t real life. The world will not cater to your every whim, emotion, life changing event, moods and neither will I.

With this former friend, I later had an awful family situation to navigate and reached out to her to advise (kind of…hi, it’s been awhile but here’s what happened to me) and was met with a dismissive too bad/so sad answer. It was as if no one else could have setbacks and misfortunes except for her.

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So you allowed the behavior for long enough that it finally overwhelmed you, without ever saying anything, "slow faded" away, also without saying anything, and then called up the friend you "soft ghosted" when you needed things and were surprised to find they weren't down to be supportive?

I think that last line may apply more to you than your "friend". Might want to look at that. [/quote]

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