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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH and I are two years post “moment of truth” where we went to marriage counseling and worked to resolve a lot of issues.  Mainly, his anger and hurtful actions, and my anger in return.

We have a very nice, stable, middle class life.  We laugh a lot, we have sex, we have good friends.  We have what looks like a great marriage and life on the surface.

But scratch a bit, and deep inside, I’m very done with him.  Like when I imagine my future, he’s not in it.  I find myself counting down how many more years the kids are with us.  I used to fantasize about him dying or running off, so this is an improvement.  But I turn over and over in my mind the logistics of leaving, telling friends and family, etc.

I tell myself it’s time to forgive and move on.  I’m not actively miserable, either.  It’s just when I think about the marriage, I think “this isn’t working for me.”

Has anyone been through something like this?  What did you do in the end?[/quote]

The only thing to remember is the grass may not be greener. You need to genuinely be OK with being alone. Maybe you are — I am. But he isn’t responsible for your happiness and don’t make the mistake of believing removing him from the equation will magically improve your happiness. It might. But it also might not. [/quote]

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