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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a child therapist. You would be absolutely shocked at the lack of parenting going on in "normal" "nice" families. People come to me because their kids are out of control and they want me to fix their kids, but haven't tried a single thing. Zero boundaries, discipline or consequences. We're doomed, honestly. And I'm a millennial not some crotchety old lady saying get off my lawn. [/quote]

My background is behavior science. Unfortunately, people who never studied behavior science in-depth latched onto the concept of positive reinforcement, which then became "ignore the bad and reward the good". Which is not at ALL how behavior actually works. Same thing happened with dog training, and now 20 years later positive reinforcement trainers are admitting it hasn't worked well for them.

Doesn't mean we go around punishing or beating kids. There are still ways to teach children how to behave that don't include punishment. But ignoring a behavior tends to make it escalate. [/quote]

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