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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My boyfriend is an amazing man. He’s very smart, hilarious, gentle, kind, emotionally available, and very loving.

His one bad trait is that he’s not a breadwinner. His career is unorganized, he hates his job, is underemployed, and has no ambition.

We are mid-late 30s and want kids asap.

I have a good career and make pretty good money. I never planned to be the primary breadwinner though. I think I could financially swing it, if he remains supportive and I rev up my career more. if you’ve taken a similar path, any regrets?[/quote]

So, I am a female breadwinner.  It can work, and I was OK with it.

However, I want to point out that in case of your boyfriend, there is a very good chance that the reason he is gentle, kind and emotionally available is because he is underemployed and has lots of bandwidth for his needs and more.  The word “unorganized” is a huge red flag.  I’ve seen guys like that - kind and gentle until they have to tend to a small child.  Then it’s Mr. Hyde who is also a burden financially.   [/quote]

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