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[quote=Anonymous] OP, I'm sorry you are dealing with this-it's hard, I know. I dealt with it but not to the extreme your Mom is doing.

My Dad had Parkinsons also (passed away in April last year). There was a lot of denial on Mom's part, and she would get frustrated at Dad sometimes over stuff that wasn't his fault. In the last few years, me and my brother sometimes had to step in and say, 'this' or 'that' is what is going to happen. For example, bro and I put gripbars on his side of the bed so he could get up safely and removed area rugs (trip hazards). I arranged for the wheelchair seating appts, and got Dad enrolled in VA. I also arranged for bathing help (towards the end). Bro and I also insisted that they get their affairs in order, which they did, regarding the house and power of atty. THIS alone has helped us a lot.

My mom would never have removed something that helped Dad though, OP, so I think you and siblings will need to get real vocal with her about that. She needs to hear the reality-not to be harsh to her, but to shock her a bit into accepting reality.

Part of it is fear, like a PP mentioned. My mom had a real hard time accepting that the Parkinsons was advancing and that it would end his life. I think brother and I dealt with it more from a practical standpoint because as kids, we weren't the spouse-we were one step removed from the emotion, know what i mean? But, as the adult child/children, you will have to sort of TELL Mom some things, in order to keep Dad safe and home. [/quote]

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