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[quote=Anonymous]I'm Gen X and also "figured it out" but a significant factor in this would be whether OP is married and what role his wife played in "figuring it out."

I'm a woman and I gave up A LOT in order to figure out childcare when my kids were young. Way more than my DH. And my DH is a good guy and a great dad. But we also went through some challenges especially when the kids were really small -- he didn't take as much of a role in figuring out childcare as I hoped and sometimes he was downright entitled (I remember when I was pregnant and looking at childcare spots, he refused to come tour any with me and said he was too busy at work and, in any case, I'd be doing all the drop off and pick up anyway right?). My career took a huge backseat and we fought over it. With time DH stepped up and we are in a way better place now and he's a full partner and doesn't leave all the kid stuff to me. But it took us years to get there and also now we have it easier in general because our kids are older and don't need childcare every second of the day plus go to school.

So if I worked in OP's workplace, I'd be very supportive and understanding of coworkers with little kids trying to figure out childcare with RTO. I wound up leaving a job when my kid was 8 months old because my company restricted WFH to one day a week after previously being more flexible, and it was a massive disruption to my childcare schedule which I'd structured around WFH three days a week and being able to easily run the baby to a nanny share down the street on those days (we hosted the share the other days). It sucks a lot to put effort and money into working out a schedule that works and then having your office make a change that totally upends it.

So yeah, unless OP is a single dad or was the primary parent when his kids were small, I would view him as the out of touch old guy who never really had to deal with childcare issues in the first place.

For the record my DH who was a jerk about this stuff when our kids were small is way more self aware now and would never criticize coworkers this way. He's in a management position now and he's used what he learned in our family to become very accommodating to people on his staff with young kids.[/quote]

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