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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hosting, obviously. My house is tiny and cluttered because we're 4 people in 1200 sq ft. My family lives abroad, and it's a long flight to see them, but it's still easier than trying to tidy up when you don't actually have the space for it.

Everyone's circumstances are different.[/quote]

Same here at 1500 sq feet. Our families and friends are used to having a lot more space to spread out, take quiet afternoon naps, get away from kid noise. We can't offer that.

For example, we hosted one family of friends who brought only one of their kids who was toddler aged, and planned to just give them our master bedroom, but they all needed to sleep in different rooms due to snoring/preference. So the kid slept in our kids' room (with our kids), the dad slept by himself in our bedroom, and the mom slept on the living room couch while we slept on the foldout in the family room. They are nice people who didn't complain but it's just a standard of personal space and privacy we can't provide and frankly don't really want to again.

Also hosting people with different food restrictions and dietary issues can be stressful in its own right. [/quote]

Wow I cannot imagine imposing on another family in that way. If that were my family, I would have had the toddler sleep with your kids and my spouse and I would have taken the foldout in the family room and we just would have dealt with the snoring. If you guys offered your master bedroom I would take it graciously but I certainly wouldn't be like "okay but also we need the couch because we can't sleep in the same room." Suck it up.

I don't understand people who are such hot house flowers that they can't just figure out how to accept the less-than-ideal sleeping arrangement while staying in someone else house. Did they never just sleep in sleeping bags on the floor at relatives houses growing up? I have three siblings so whenever we travelled, I was sharing a room with other people and would often have not the most comfortable sleeping arrangement. Now if I want nicer accommodations, we get a hotel or AirBnB. If we stay with friends or family, I will find a way to make whatever they offer work for us. They are likely saving us 200-300 a night by hosting.

I am more understanding of food restrictions as I have a kid with one of these. But even there, I am very accustomed to just traveling with food or making our own arrangements to make sure our kid has food to eat. I would never expect a host to rearrange entire meals around my kid's restrictions -- we don't even do that at home because her eating is so limited. We just make sure that there are always 2-3 things at every meal she can eat and then try for one big family meal every week where she can eat everything on the table (and this meal is often the same thing because again, very restrictive diet). I always let hosts know what she will eat and then tell them to plan meals as normal and we'll make sure there are a few things in the kitchen we can supplement with as needed.[/quote]

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