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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Long time lurker needing to vent. DD (20 years old, finishing her sophomore year) has applied to more competitive schools three times (two times as a college student one time as a high schooler) and gotten rejected all times. She’s currently at a private I never wanted her at in the first place.

Back in high school, she was a decent student ([b]mostly B’s, a few A’s, not a good test taker[/b]) but not great, so I knew the Ivies and top-tier schools would be a stretch. But I thought for sure she could work her way up once in college. She’s poured her heart into her first two years at this lower place, taking challenging classes, [b]getting decent grades[/b][b][/b], volunteering, clubs, etc.

Yet every single “higher” school she applied to has shot her down. Northeastern, Georgetown, UCLA, Tulane, UVA, Wake Forest, William and Mary, USC (dream school), UCSD, Irvine, UT Austin, UFlorida, Georgia, BostonU, BostonC, etc. She has one more chance to apply to transfer before she hits the credit limit that makes transferring impractical not to mention the additional semesters of tuition it would cost us. If this last try doesn’t work out, she’ll be stuck finishing at the same no-name place. This feels like the end of the road for her future possibilities, and I’m heartbroken, and honestly, kind of furious.

I understand maybe this is just “how it is,” but I see other kids in her high school class who breezed into brand-name colleges left and right. [b]We spent thousands of dollars on tutoring, SAT prep, extracurricular camps, you name it. She’s a bright kid but apparently not bright enough[/b] for the pretentious and sadistic admissions committees.

Has anyone else gone through a situation like this? I’m trying to figure out if we have any last-ditch strategies, or if I just have to come to terms with the fact that my daughter may have to remain at a school that, in my heart, I believe is beneath her potential. I just want honest opinions and some glimmer of hope. Thanks for reading, everyone.[/quote]

More Bs than As in high school plus not a good test taker means she was no where near the level of the students at the schools you are trying to attain(all basically T30-50), and her grades at her current college sound as though they are less than 3.8 or you would not have used the word “decent”. Transfer students to the T50 from lower ranked schools usually need to have 3.9+, 3.8 minimum. 
She is not the right caliber of student for her aims: she would likely be well below average if one of them let her in. You need to accept the kid you have and help her accept the school and do her best there. People have many great jobs from many great colleges. People who breeze into T50 from high school are a different level. And those who graduate top of the class in all the hard classes and get 5s on almost all AP without tutors are a different level still, and can get into T10/ivy. Each kid needs to do their own best and not chase untenable goals. Let her be. [/quote]

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