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[quote=Anonymous]First off congrats OP! I’m sure this seems overwhelming now, but they won’t all be “under 3” forever. In the long run I think this is a good thing.

I’m on the other end of things where I had 3 over a period of 8 years. It’s been nice in a lot of ways — the older kids were helpful (or at least more independent) when their younger sibling(s) came along and we could stagger childcare and eventually college costs. But it also means we’re dealing with the cusp of puberty and moodiness from our oldest while also potty training our youngest! So that has its own challenges. And it means we have been in the little kid phase for what feels like forever as many of our friends who stopped with 1 or 2 (or spaced them closer) have long ago moved on. While our friends go on amazing international family trips, we are still planning travel to accommodate a nap schedule. Ultimately I love how our family turned out, but it’s trade offs.

You are about to have a wild (and expensive) few years. But I agree with people saying get a nanny (even if this means you can’t save for retirement or have to tread water financially).

The good news is you aren’t exactly going to be planning fancy vacations or buying nice furniture etc. the next few years. So just embrace the chaos for a years and focus on that.

Also because you’ve only been a mom for 11 months you don’t yet have the perspective of how much better it gets once your kid is potty trained, fully verbal, able to make themself a snack, etc. One day your kids will be getting up to pour themselves a bowl of cereal and watch tv together while you sleep in on a Saturday morning. It will happen! [/quote]

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