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[quote=Anonymous][quote]Once people are deep into dementia, there’s no benefit to correcting them; they simply cannot remember. It can feel intentional but it’s not, even if your loved one had a tangential relationship to the truth when they were healthy and cognitively intact.

It’s best to just let it go, or join them in their perception (unless of course it is early days and they are still living alone or managing their own care).[/quote]

+1.  I am currently trying to convince my mom about this.  My dad was telling me a story over the holidays with details that could not have possibly been true, but he was so happy to be in his element (he was always highly social, jokester, storyteller) but my mother started nitpicking, rolling her eyes, telling him he was wrong.  I know caregiving is impossibly hard and she probably thought she was saving him from embarrassment.  If you are in that position, please let the person with dementia enjoy telling their story.  If you, as the caregiver, want to assure the listener that the story was complete garbage, do it quietly and privately later.[/quote]

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